Oh wow, this is an old friend who hasn’t come up for a while.
The Hermit is about focusing inward, seeking truth and knowledge inside yourself, and following your own light. It’s often solitary, and when it’s about connection it’s about a student-teacher connection.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about connection and loneliness.
In the past, I felt most safe when I was walled off from other people, like The Hermit in their cozy eggshell. I was really isolated and lonely.
After a lot of healing work, I learned to connect to other people in some ways that feel safe and nourishing. I still felt isolated a lot of the time, but the solitude allowed me to develop a really grounded, friendly relationship with myself.
Now I’m connecting on a more intimate level. It’s wonderful and it’s terrifying and it’s hard to process it all. I’m wrestling with a lot of fears and old patterns. It can be hard to stay connected to myself when I’m putting so much energy into connecting with someone else. It can be hard to remember that my sense of self-worth has to come from within or it will always be fragile.
“Remember that no one can answer all of your questions or find your meaning for you.” Slow Holler Tarot
I think this card is reminding me that The Hermit is something I can always access, even in the midst of connection with others. It doesn’t have to be walls or isolation—it can be a small quiet space where I reconnect with my values and my truth and my worthiness. Solitude can be part of connection. It can be a haven.